You are YOU

When we call each other by our names, it's like giving a little nod of recognition. My name is a nickname, and there's a story behind it. If you're curious about why I go by my nickname instead of my real name, I'd love to share it at your next conference.

Sister Cece from the Benedictine Monastery once shared something profound with our group. She said that two things set us apart from others: our names and our thumbprints. That's undoubtedly true, but there's more to it. Our experiences, what we know, and our stories also significantly shape who we are. How do you begin to tell your own story?

I've often found myself using different pronouns to describe myself. Typically, I use 'she/her,' but sometimes I throw in 'them/they' because my name can confuse some people.

My identity is a tapestry woven with threads of being a woman, a mother, a wife, and many other nouns.

I'm immensely proud of my heritage as a woman of color, specifically Filipina. I've been told I also have Chinese, Spanish, and Italian roots. My ancestors faced countless challenges due to colonialism, but what inspires me is seeing the younger generation embrace their indigenous roots.

Living with a disability has also been a part of my journey. Growing up, I endured teasing for having one leg, and people often labeled me as 'the girl with crutches.' I also have crooked teeth, but that's a story for another time. If any orthodontist is willing to help fix my teeth, please reach out!

All these facets make up who I am, but I'm more than just my labels. In a transformative Neuroencoding training session with Joseph McClendon III, we embarked on an exercise listing all the nouns that describe us. I wrote down various roles and aspirations, from wife and mother to Filipina, coach, consultant, speaker, trainer, mediator, and facilitaor. Even words from my past, like healer and peacekeeper, found their place alongside future dreams of being an international traveling influencer.

I consciously omitted negative labels because I believe in focusing on the positive. You are unique, and you possess countless extraordinary qualities. Please take a moment, grab a piece of paper, and jot down as many positive nouns that describe you as possible.

Then, read them aloud.

How does it make you feel?

Please share them with me.